Email: Have many insecurities. How to overcome? (US)
There isn’t a person who doesn’t have insecurities. We worry what people think, if we’re good enough, we’re not doing all we should be, we’ll fail.
How can we be OK with ourselves? Answer isn’t simple. Requires a willingness to face, what we usually don’t want to face to heal. In small doses, focus on our insecurities.
If people criticised us while growing up, we’ve probably internalised it. A negative self-image appears, we criticise self. Unfavourable comparisons with others results in a self-image that isn’t so great. We can actually be competent, brilliant, beautiful, but if we have an image of self that is ugly, dumb, we’ll act accordingly.
When we get approvals, it feels great! We feel worthy. Stuck needing constant approvals. A fearful cycle of need. We learn not to trust self, reject large parts of inner selves.
The obstacles are the path. Insecurities are an opportunity to learn about how we work. Holding on to fears, resentments doesn’t help. Honest self-assessment works. Give self assurance, compassion, love. Embrace all our parts, see beauty. Accept self completely, no judgements, comparisons.
Develop a trust in self, in the moment. It will unfold naturally, beautifully. Shift our perspective, learn new mind management skills, one moment at a time, patiently.
Insecurity kills all wonderful stuff, take good care!