Email: Which difficult beliefs have you tried to overcome? (Bulgaria)
Very interesting question. How honest can I be?! Okay, here it is. ‘If you accept a limiting belief, then it will become a truth for you’.
It’s fascinating to reflect on how belief systems are formed. An introvert at heart. Way back in time (in school), used introversion as an excuse to avoid getting too close to anyone. Stay away from competitiveness, chaos. Protect my individuality, sensitivity, creativity, energy. Highly intuitive, perceptive, so could see beyond the visible, scary!
Self reflections, awareness helped to know self better. Explored, faced struggle head on, first on paper, then reality! Slowly opened up to only a few. Cherished, shared thoughts, feelings, trust, openness. Treasured fun, creative, playful, meaningful, motivating moments. Joy in just mundane interactions!
Limiting beliefs in forming deep friendships were:
- No one really gets me
- I ruin all my relationships
- I’m intense or sensitive for people
- People always disappoint eventually
- You can’t really trust anyone
- I can’t relate to any one
We form such beliefs out of direct experiences in our past. When something painful happens, we draw conclusions about why it happened, to avoid in future. Conclusion feels like a repetitive fact, then forms a belief. Incorrect. Affects how we think, act, feel about selves, others.
Limiting social beliefs are often amplified by a fear of rejection, criticism, betrayal. We proceed with undue caution to protect selves from getting hurt. This leads to limiting decisions. We cut selves off from what’s possible by painting selves into a safe box, miss opportunities that truly enrich our lives.
Action against self-protecting, self-doubting instincts is absolutely needed. Took slow, steady baby steps to start trusting self. Started by setting clear intentions. Positive expectations, vulnerable efforts shift energy, move us into top gear. Brings inner strength, authenticity. Increases likelihood of making solid connections, bonds.
Our beliefs are powerful, it’s important to stop telling self a limiting story. Shedding my limiting beliefs opened doors for a multitude of incredibly inspiring surprises, self-expressions.
Much better now but still working on it…