Email: Best ways to manage pain, distress, don’t want family to know? (US)
Most important step is choosing to fully experience pain, anger, distress, other feelings, not bury deep within. Seems like an insurmountable challenge? Life’s full of ebbs, flows, bringing forth a variety of emotions. Often, our 1st reaction is to push our feelings away. We say, ‘don’t want to think about it right now, maybe later’. Both joy, pain is tough to process. Our external life is basically a reflection of our inner state of being.
Sometimes, we have beliefs like ‘men shouldn’t be emotional’, ‘boys don’t cry’! Why? They’re human too. Don’t deny vulnerability, validity of our feelings to focus on other concerns. Diverse emotions are neither good nor bad, simply a part of being human. Experience in safe, enriching ways. If left lingering, unresolved, unable to emerge, it affects ways we can authentically experience our world. Allowing self to share, experience emotions, even more painful ones, helps build inner strength, resilience. Opens infinite possibilities.
It may sound silly to set aside time to feel, but a very beneficial, healing exercise. Find a safe place, pick some alone time to feel comfortable in surroundings. Bring to mind events that originally triggered specific emotions we’ve been pushing away. Helps to journal or visualise. Let go of negativity. Releasing into joy of the present infuses play, wonder, delight. Sharing our feelings creates a deeper sense of intimacy, connection in our relationships.
Once we’ve touched long denied emotions, just freely feel, no judging reactions, no boundaries, just like a child. Cry, laugh, scream but don’t block the flow. As we release what we’ve pushed inside, we heal. Letting emotions flow naturally prevents emotional blocks. Acknowledging all our emotions allows us to stay really emotionally healthy, brings personal abundance, enhances creativity, adds power to innate energies.
The cure is in the pain.