Email: My BF doesn’t change things I don’t like. What can I do? (Japan)
Ha ha,
Question for you – why do you want to ‘change’ him? When we really love someone, it’s simply and selflessly, for who they are. Each and every inch – the dark, light, all that’s known or unknown.
If you have to ‘change’ someone to love them, it surely isn’t real love. Love is giving them the freedom to be who they are – feel vulnerable, valued and loved, no matter what.
Love has an insane and inspiring effect on us. Who we truly love, ‘changes who we are’! We want to be best possible version of self in a natural, honest and meaningful way. Unintentionally, we feel unworthy or deserving of their love, want to be much better.
True love is messy, frustrating, challenging, difficult, complicated, yet an undeniable mind-blowing playful chemistry, magnetic attraction, desire, peace and passion.
“I love you” and “I hate you” but “I’m a little lost without you”
In fact, when two people deeply in love come together – their expressive, enormous and enigmatic energy, can change the world..
Reminded of my favourite song, “if a picture paints a thousand words…”