Email: Is intimacy okay before engagement? (Sri Lanka)
Read you’re a Tamilian girl (20), entering into an arranged marriage. Congrats! A very personal decision indeed. No right, wrong reply. Based on beliefs, values. I had an arranged marriage too, met fiancé for just 5 hours over coffee, before wedding!
Intimacy is much more than just sex – emotional, intellectual. Sex comes with personal responsibility. Meaningful bonding, receptive expressions, sensitive sentiments. Sexual chemistry plays an important role in marriage. Perceiving a partners desires intimately is pleasurable. Sensuality, playfulness is even more critical than sex.
Listen to intuitive whispers, not impetuous. Natural levels of mutual compatibility, respect, comfort in each others presence? Get to know each other better. If unsure take it slow. Sex shouldn’t be a forced act, neither should one feel compelled to justify. Share fears, expectations, equally listen. Simply ask what’s needed to feel safe, sure, satisfied.
Each one of us is unique – dreams, fantasies, imaginations. No standard check-lists. Healthy boundaries, positive feminine energy helps secure needs. Treat intimacy as a natural evolution to romance.