Email: Dating for 2 years, don’t know what he wants? (Japan)
Dating queries isn’t my forte! However, here’s what I’d like to say. Often, we worry so much about what others want? The more important question is ‘what do we really want’? ‘What’ll make us happy’?
Multiple dating models exist today. Range from short term relationships to long term partnerships. Sure, other labels exist as well. No judgements on conventional or non-conventional relationships, personal preferences at any given point in time.
A high value woman though is quite clear about her desires, needs, standards, purpose, goals (not just in dating but everything in life). We can’t truly relate, connect with others if we’re unclear about what we want for selves. Simply ask!
Of course, this doesn’t mean unrealistic expectations, standards like an ice maiden! Standards aren’t a defence mechanism to build walls. Stay open, receptive. Feminine vulnerability, passion, intuitive playfulness is great for healthy relationships. Sometimes, relationships need creative compromises but the bar has to be set at a high and low point. There’s flexibility between the two points!
As next steps, first spend time exploring, understanding our own deepest needs, aspirations, desires. Then, honestly yet humbly, compassionately communicate with others. Listen intently for alternative ideas, perspectives as well.
Ultimately balance standards, needs, goals with value we place on certain relationships (tangible, intangible). What are we ready to give, receive (short, long term)? Why invest energy, effort? Real potential for joy, fulfilment, fun, abundance?
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