Email: Husband confessed cheating a few times, should I leave? (US)
Sorry to hear. A personal decision. However, think he’s a good man. Had a choice to stay in low or high energies. Takes courage to confess darker moments, traits, phases in life. A proof he loves, respects you. Listen without judgement.
No human is perfect. Two imperfect people make things perfect! Not to feel an insecure victim of rejection, guilt, shame, regret. A choice now – can escape, leave. Or forgive, endure to make an effort. Honestly discuss overall issues, sexual needs, desires to improve compatibility, get creative!
Inject fresh passion, spontaneity, focus on the moment. Let go of blocks, ego, anger, heartache. Real love of any sort is compassionate, nurturing, forgiving, empowering. Self-reflection, balanced evaluation is cornerstone to holistic hope, healing. Find self-love, self-compassion to heal, as well.
We accept ones we love (romantic or not) at both their highest, lowest points, just as they are. In fact, they need us most at their lowest points. If we want them to change to our specifications, so we can love them, for sure it isn’t love. Out of rejection comes our greatest direction, inner light, wisdom, strength.
Pain of feeling hurt, rejected, unloved can make us abandon precious goals, dreams, relationships. There are only two basic human emotions – love or fear. Only love is real, fear is just an illusion. Embark on a responsible, peaceful, powerful, playfully beautiful new journey together!