Email: How to control strong emotional reactions? (HK)
Typically, we react strongly when we are feeling defensive, insecure or sensitive. We could spend an inordinate amount of time questioning others, will they offend or hurt?
However, our feelings may be based not so much on empirical evidence, rather our perceptions, ego or fears of vulnerability. We can manage emotional rawness by thinking carefully about why, identify specific blockages to unchain, free self?
After thoughtful self-examinations, we may realise we’re unknowingly responding to fears that others will reject or criticise our perspectives, dreams, goals or plans.
Strong emotional reactions are often a sign of unspoken issues lingering within us. It is easy to ascribe motives to others. When we are dealing with challenges in our own lives, we tend to judge people a little more harshly, as well.
Moving away is simply a matter of accepting we can never truly be perfect. We begin to believe, give other’s benefit of the doubt, to attract goodwill of people we meet. Opening our hearts to be a little vulnerable in our attitudes brings immense energy, enthusiasm.
Worth trying to stay open, receptive, teachable, flexible to honour self, delightfully dance with destiny rather than ‘claming’ up, as a natural reaction.
I’m still learning to be vulnerable, showing up and letting self be seen…