Email: Wife resists move to another country. How to manage? (India)
A judgmental attitude is problematic, creates real dissatisfaction within mind and heart.
We create solutions suited to needs when we take a two-fold approach to change:
1. Accepting what is beyond our control and
2. Actively strive to change the variable elements, which dissatisfy us.
Dig into her fears, assure concerns or aspirations will be taken seriously. Communicate honestly, compassionately, realistically. Listen, find answers together.
Recognising our limitations, we empower ourselves to focus on practical or feasible ideas, within range of our true potential, satisfaction or capabilities.
We can channel the judgments we make into positive exploits. Fulfil our need for adaptive action and ensure our outer world concerns meet our expectations.