Email: I’m so unsure of my BF. What can I do? (US)
What do men want? Think, they want to be deeply loved, nurtured and emotionally safe. Yet keep a level of their independence, authority and not lose themselves.
Sounds weird, but true. Won’t tell you. In a stressfully competitive, action packed world, they want to just be who they are, naked without judgement. Nourishment for their soft feminine energy. Want terrific togetherness and freedom, authenticity and honesty.
Ironically, people think women want to be loved. Think, men want to be truly loved. Women want to be wanted. They want to be desired, admired, adored and valued.
We think men only want sex. Sex is very important but isn’t difficult to get, more options available than we know. Deep down somewhere they want natural love, compassion, empathy and passion – exquisite emotional intimacy.
Intuitively trusting and understanding, giving them a little space, being less insecure and clingy, heart to heart conversations to alleviate their insecurities or fears, lovingly being there no matter what, playful indulgence and sensual intimacy, maybe good steps.
Real solid, tough lessons to learn.